Yes its on all that good stuff, like relationships, man & woman, sex, and dating.
My inspiration for this comes from one of the highest rated T.V. shows, The Bachelor.
First I want to start with the concept and "idea" of this show.
Personally I must confess, I have seen the show numerous times. But I began to see something as I watched. These individuals claim multiple things:
"I love all of these women that are left in the competition"
"Out of these two I don't know who to pick because I love them both"
You get my point right?
Well this has many factors to it.
One being; This man or woman (bachelorette) say that they love multiple individuals.
I'm intrigued because I do believe you can love multiple people. I know I do, and I have.
I say this though, falling in love and being in love is intimate and rare....well at least it should be, especially in marriage. Because I think we can all agree divorce is not always the greatest thing.
Honestly.
So for him or her to say they love all or a few people is not correct in this context.
Last I knew we are made to either be single (1 Corinthians 7:25-31) or married and committed to one woman or man.
In fact it's better to be single if you can be, and that is truth. I'm sure we can all agree on that....(unless your between the ages of 13- 19, with the exception of those older, but that brings up another issue)
So what I am getting at with this is how can a man or woman fall deeply, madly in love with multiple people at the same time?
Oh so now you say,
"Well he chooses THE ONE at the end"
Here is what I say to that...
First, this is treated as some kind of competition from when they arrive.
A competition people!
The definition of Competition is "to strive for" or "be in rivalry"
This seems strange to me....
I want my future wife to feel I fought for her, but not literally fight or be in rivalry over her.
She is a human!
Shouldn't it be a natural thing that God ordained?
Yes, fight for your woman, stick up for her, but holy crap let her feel like a person!
I doubt any of these women went through the show without questioning if they were good enough...
Or if they were the right one...
Or if he loved them more then another one.
And in some ways that may be okay to do.....if you are confident in who you are,
but obviously that can't even be very true because they are on a T.V. show that picks these smoking hot babes that care way more about how they look then how they feel about themselves.
I'm just tired of really, really low self esteemed women.
But men don't off the hook, because we have been the problem!
We have created what women should be, and so they do that those things.
Because that's apparently what we want.
I want authenticity.
We all need to treat women and men for that matter as special human beings.
Not like they are just apart of a competition.
And lastly, this is to those that watch.
We watch it for entertainment purposes.
And that makes me sad...
This is how we spend our time?
Watching other people "figure out" who their wife or husband will be?
Why don't we get up and do something?
Go find and search for that person instead of getting ideas from a T.V. show.
Or instead of spending 1-3 hours of our life watching stuff, do something...
I'm not condoning T.V. or shows that we watch.
Maybe consider doing something of value before you watch a show.
Talk to people
Go for a walk
Read a book
Write
Ride a bike...I don't know,
Just do something.
For that wonderful woman he has chosen, best of wishes. I'm serious.
You are THE ONE
You stood out more then all those others and he picked the best which was you!
But he went through and did a lot of odd and wrong things to get there.
Women should never be compared to other women.
Nor handled like pieces of meat.
Men, we need to show more love and respect that gives that woman the feeling of confidence within herself.
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